I could list my degrees, my designations, my job titles, and experiences. I could talk to you about all the people I’ve met and know, things I’ve accomplished and am working on and while that’s all well and good, nothing, absolutely nothing, comes close to the experience I treasure — MAMA.
From the second I discovered I was pregnant, jumping for joy in the bathroom as I looked at the line on the stick, there was an alchemical quickening within me. The mystery of life occurring within me. And, I knew that something very different was being birthed inside of me as this child grew within me – me. I set the intention to birth differently than my mother and all of the women that I knew had done — to birth at home, in a tub, with a midwife and doula. My intention was that my child be born as peacefully as possible. I’d watched the video of the women giving birth in the Black Sea and I thought, oh, yes, that’s for me. I know that this baby wants to be born this way. There was no other choice for me. And so, the Universe, in its infinite wisdom, wrapped itself around my intention, and I was hired at 5 months pregnant, by another woman, at a company which afforded me the opportunity to have the insurance to cover the midwives. I read, went to pre natal yoga at Golden Bridge with the wonderful Gurmukh and my friend, Davi Khalsa, who is now a magnificent midwife, and prepared myself for the arrival of my beloved child.
Being a parent is a high and holy path — whether a child comes through you or to you — your life will be forever transformed. On a daily basis, I get to grow as I grow my child. I am her mentor, she is my spiritual teacher. I tell my daughter, “I’m so glad that I get to grow with you.” The love I feel for her is like a mighty river that continually flows without end. I am deeply grateful for this experience. It’s the gift that keeps on giving.
I began working privately with mamas while going through the Practitioner Training program at the Agape International Spiritual Center, founded by Michael Bernard Beckwith. I began studying with Michael Beckwith in 1999 and immersed myself in spiritual, psychological, birth education, parenting and non-violent parenting and communication workshops. I was already a hypnotherapist utilizing that and my gifts as a soul reader to support women in manifesting their full creative expression.
I have a fire in my belly about women being given the support to birth babies naturally, if they choose, and growing children with compassion, peace, confidence and kindness so that they grow to be caring, confident and resilient people. I knew something had taken hold of me when my husband and I talked about my returning to work after my 6 week maternity leave — before I had given birth to our child — I burst into tears and was inconsolable about being separated from this being that I was bringing into the world. Internally, I’d already made a decision that I was going to work from home and be with our baby no matter what. I lead my first parenting workshop at Agape in 2004 and have been working with families and facilitating workshops since then at Agape and around the country. I can’t seem to keep myself from sharing information with pregnant women and parents about the ways in which we can empower ourselves and our children through compassionate communication and practical tools.
The mama lioness in me feels called to create a world that is more peaceful for our children. Not as a platitude but a real, tangible experience. It’s not okay with me that women die in childbirth or are unsafe when pregnant, that girls in other countries are married off as young as 10, that there’s human trafficking or genital mutilation. I have a 10-year old and I can tell you that she’s not ready to be married. I am fortunate because in the American culture, I don’t need to marry her off to survive. I can’t imagine that any parent truly wishes to give their child away. I believe that a part of them shrivels when they feel that this is their only option.
I stand for a world where people get to know that love is their true nature.
I stand for people knowing that there really is a way to be in the world that is based on collaboration, community, communication and honoring of one another. That joy and freedom are natural to being alive. I seek to educate people so that they know that fear is a defense against being hurt or having been hurt and that hurting another person through words and actions stems from ignorance and fear, not truth.
I stand for women’s reproductive rights being honored, where women can choose to birth as they wish, not scared into believing that they are not in control of their bodies and need to have their birth treated as a medical protocol, with all due respect to the medical community.
I stand for pregnant women being safe as they move around the world, not at risk. I stand for maternal well-being to be a mandatory right. And health-care for women and children. Ibu Robin Lim, the 2011 CNN Hero, whom I recently met and fell in love with says, “every mother counts and healthcare is a human right.”
I stand for every woman and child to have health-care insurance, to be housed, fed, clothed educated, cared for — it is our birthright to have this, not a luxury for those who can afford it.
I stand for compassionate communication where conflict resolution is practiced worldwide.
I know that together we can create more peace and affect change. Note what’s unfolding in our world. Old structures are dissolving, people are joining together around the world saying they want change, and talk about the need for feminine energy to be activated in people around the world, especially in leaders, is part of mainstream conversation.
I invite you to join with me to create a world that is more peaceful and peace filled. Will you join with me? Will you contribute to the chaos or the peace? On Mother’s Day 2012, there will be a peace, information and celebration gathering at the Washington Monument called the Million Mamas March, which is the launch of the Million Mamas Movement.
Please contact me for more information: firstname.lastname@example.org